Releasing Energy-Draining Habits and People
Hey Selfists, Tamika here!
Self-preservation isn’t selfish; it’s survival. Too often, we hold on to habits and relationships that deplete us, leaving little room for growth, peace, and joy. If you constantly feel drained, resentful, or stuck in cycles that don’t serve you, it’s time to reassess what—and who—you’re allowing into your life.
Identifying Energy Drains
The first step in self-preservation is recognizing what’s pulling you down. Ask yourself:
- Do I feel emotionally exhausted after interacting with certain people?
- Am I engaging in habits that leave me feeling worse instead of better?
- Is my environment supporting or stifling my growth?
- Do I say “yes” out of obligation rather than genuine desire?
If any of these resonate, you’re likely giving too much of yourself to things that don’t replenish you.
Releasing Draining People
Let’s be real—some relationships are simply not meant to be sustained. Whether it’s a friend who only calls when they need something, a family member who thrives on drama, or a partner who refuses to pour into you the way you pour into them, it’s okay to step away.
Here’s how:
- Set Boundaries: If cutting ties isn’t an option, limit your interactions and set clear emotional and physical boundaries.
- Communicate Honestly: If you feel safe, express your feelings. Let them know their energy isn’t aligned with your growth.
- Detach with Love: Letting go doesn’t require hostility. You can release someone with love and still prioritize your peace.
- Find Your Tribe: Surround yourself with people who uplift, support, and pour positivity into your life.
Releasing Energy-Draining Habits
Sometimes, it’s not other people—it’s us. The habits we cultivate can either empower or exhaust us. Some common energy-draining habits include:
- Overcommitting and neglecting personal time
- Engaging in negative self-talk
- Living in the past or fearing the future
- Seeking validation from others
- Procrastinating on self-care
To shift away from these habits:
- Prioritize Rest and Recovery: Sleep, hydration, and downtime are essential.
- Practice Mindfulness: Stay present. The past is a lesson, the future is unknown, but now is where your power lies.
- Learn to Say No: Protect your energy by declining obligations that don’t align with your well-being.
- Replace Negative Self-Talk: Speak to yourself with the same love and encouragement you’d give a friend.
- Move Your Body: Exercise, stretch, dance—release stagnant energy physically to free yourself mentally.
The Reward: Peace and Rejuvenation
When you release what drains you, you create space for what nourishes you. You’ll find clarity, peace, and an unshakable sense of self-worth. Remember, you are not obligated to keep people or habits in your life that make you feel less than whole. Choose yourself, unapologetically.
What’s one energy-draining habit or person you’re ready to release? Drop it in the comments and let’s support each other on this journey to self-preservation.